The road out of abuse and toxic relationships is longer or shorter, depending on you and the way you look at the world. Most of the folks I’ve talked with about abuse, had trouble enjoying life, feeling the pleasures that life has to offer and even being their own cheerleaders when they succeeded at something.
This is an absolutely normal thing. We were invalidated by our abusive parents since birth and weren’t allowed to feel, much less feel pleasure or excitement in life. It is sad but remember that our parents weren’t able to enjoy themselves either.
They accepted the message from their own parents that they’re broken, rotten, unworthy of love. And that, if they ever do something to enjoy life, they will feel guilty and sad. They will be confused that they are happy while their family is wallowing in misery or illness.