If you’re an adult child who grew up in a toxic family environment, Christmas brings feelings of sadness, guilt or shame. You might remember the incredible stress your parents went through just to make the preparations for Christmas, or their anger if things didn’t go their way.
Toxic parents usually react with extreme emotions to positive events, due to maybe, an inability of theirs to enjoy themselves. They will burden their adult children with guilt and try as much as they can to convince them to spend holidays together (even if the adult children are married, with children).
However, you can tell yourself that you don’t need to accept the guilt they throw at you, and just make plans of your own.
If you already know what you’re going to do, make sure to sneak few Christmas movies into your entertainment schedule. Following are eight flicks that send a message of love, compassion and well-being.
1. The nightmare before Christmas (1993)
Jack Skellington, the pumpkin king of Halloween town stumbles upon Christmas town. Seeing how different the traditions are there, he decides to adopt some of them and share this discovery with his neighbors. However, things don’t go as planned.
2. A Christmas story (1983)
This famous all-American holiday movie tells the story of a boy who tries to convince his parents that a Red Ryder B.B gun is the perfect Christmas gift.
3. Holiday Inn (1942)
At an inn that is open only during the holidays, a crooner and a hoofer compete for the love of a beautiful dancer.
4. Christmas in Connecticut (1945)
A food writer who lies about being a great housewife has to deal with two uninvited guests on Christmas day: her boss and a war veteran.
5. It’s a wonderful life (1946)
This is by far the best and most acclaimed Christmas movie ever made.
I heard so many things about it but got to watch it only a couple of years ago. ‘It’s a wonderful life’ tells the story of a struggling business man who is helped by an angel and gets to see how life turned out if he wouldn’t have been born.
6. The muppet Christmas Carol (1992)
In this movie, the muppets tell the story of an old Scrooge who gets his redemption on Christmas Eve.
7. Planes, trains and automobiles (1987)
This is a Thanksgiving movie that follows Neal, a middle-aged man with a wish: going home for the holidays. Unfortunately, his plane gets canceled, thus, he decides to rent a car. In his journey, he finds a ring shower salesman who can’t stop talking.
8. Love actually (2003)
This modern flick is about eight couples that deal with their love lives in their own, unique way.
I enjoyed this movie, mostly because it sends a positive family vibe. It also talks about people who are not perfect but have a lot of things to overcome. You might even find yourself in one of these characters but the best part of this movie is that, in the end, everybody wins.
I can’t ask for a better message than this.
Do you have a favorite Christmas movie? Share it in the comment section.